Tuesday, 11 August 2009
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It’s suffocatingly hot here in Maryland – hot and unbearably humid. The air is thick and damp and hard to breath. They’ve opened cooling centers around Annapolis, and sent out long emails with tips to stay cool and hydrated. It’s one of those days I’m grateful to work inside, grateful for air conditioning.
I ate my lunch inside yesterday for the first time since the constant spring rain stopped in June, sitting at a bare table in our grim, grungy lunchroom while the minutes ticked by and I lost myself in Ann Patchett’s “Truth and Beauty.” Last night, heat lightening flickered on and off most of the evening, and I feel asleep to the rain hitting my window – but this morning dawned just as hot and with even more humidity in the air.
I guess Ann Patchett and I will eat lunch in that sad little lunch room again today.
It’s a strange time of year and a strange time of life. The last few weeks of summer are passing in hot stillness before the frenzy of a new school year. Many neighbors, officials, businessmen and women are on vacation, and our depleted newsroom is quiet. Even the police scanners are quieter than usual, interrupted by occasional calls for heart attacks or dogs locked in cars. I spent nearly an hour searching for a story for tomorrow’s paper, but found nothing and now I’m waiting for some random e-mail or phone call that will propel me into interviews and half-frantic typing and the last-minute questions that always come on the morning deadline.
It seems that waiting is something I’ve become proficient in. Waiting for the next lay-off that is more of a question of when than if; waiting for the call that will be my husband’s new job and, hopefully, a chance for me to leave this place and take up truly writing again – no more of these calendar listings and half-formulated announcements that take up too much of my day here.
Some days I feel like those potted flowers waiting on a nursery shelf. They have the nutrients, the water and the sunlight they need to survive, but their roots have wrapped around and around themselves and filled every bit of space in their tight containers, and now they are languishing, waiting for a piece of ground where they can stretch their roots in all directions, a place to make their own. In a way that’s how we are. The job hunt has continued since November, with many false hopes and disappointments and a slow redefining of our goals and priorities. And so we keep working, living, and waiting here… ready to belong somewhere and yet not quite sure where that place is.
And in a way it’s exciting; we’ve reached the end of this chapter and another is ready to begin, and I have no idea what it will be like. Now we’re just waiting for that page to turn, while Maryland waits for the summer heat wave to give way into fall.
Sunday, 28 June 2009
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Everyone around me in the small, chiropractor's office in the middle of a busy shopping center was glued to the TV set high on the wall. Scenes from the Los Angeles hospital were interspersed with Michael Jackson's face, his life and career rehashed while anchors and reporters tried to fill the minutes before we learned whether he was alive or dead. The door would squeak open, then the newcomer would stop in the doorway. "What happened?" and someone in the room would say yet again what the anchors kept repeating every few minutes. One patient came out of her room and stood in the waiting room with us, taking calls from friends who'd heard on the radio that he was already gone. The couple next to me started remembering their favorite songs.
And I sat in my chair, completely untouched by the interest and even emotion around me. I guess I'm just young enough that my first memories of him are the pictures of his children being dangled from European balconies; I read about him during his molestation trials; I studied the strange progression of his facial changes through pictures on Fox or CNN. But I realized last week that I don't know any of his music. I'm sure I've heard a song in passing, but I never knew it to be his.
I felt strangely like I have in foreign countries; only this time the cause was age more than nationality, I guess. And it's a very odd feeling.
Thursday, 04 June 2009
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It's been raining pretty much all day, a cold, steady rain after a fierce thunderstorm last night. And I'm home, finishing my work day in the bright office that makes up the second bedroom in our small apartment. Vesper is playing at my feet or knocking the books off the bottom shelf in the other room.
It's one of those days that I love my job. I just got off the phone with a producer in Nashville who worked with legends like Loretta Lynn or Johnny Cash, and is now producing an album for a local girl hoping to make it big. Taylor Swift took the country music world by storm, and surprised him. Maybe this girl can do it too.
Odd, how easily my small world brushes up against fame like that. Even odder, that he seemed genuine, nice, and took the time to talk to me.
Earlier today I was talking with the girl herself - she seemed a little nervous, giddy as she stood on the edge of possible fame. She hung her picture on the wall of the recording studio in Nashville, up there with Faith Hill and Waylon Jennings.
Maybe someday she'll be as famous as they. And then I can say I wrote the first newspaper article about her.
But another one of my coworkers was laid off today, in cost-cutting measures that go on and on. I feel like I'm at the deathbed of someone I love, knowing that the end is coming but not knowing when it is. We keep trying different things to stay alive - mostly cutting staff or services. But it's simply a matter of time before there's nothing left to cut.
I love the work I do. I just wish somebody, somewhere, could find a way to make money in journalism.
Friday, 27 March 2009
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We've only had her a few days, but already Vesper has won our hearts and taken over our home. She spends all evening running around our small apartment - fitting herself into impossibly small spaces and jumping out to attack our feet; clucking as she chases a golf ball across the floor and sniffing eagerly at our fridge door. We spend all day thinking about her, hoping she's not too bored or hasn't managed to find a way to hurt herself in our absence. And once we're home at night, she keeps us entertained with her funny run and her curiosity.
It's odd how a pet can be so inspiring. Vesper was 8-weeks-old when we pulled her out of the pile of sleeping ferret babies at Petco the same day she had arrived there. She clawed frantically at the box they gave us to carry her home, but when we dropped an empty water bottle in she forgot her fear in her curiosity.
She spent that first night exploring, running along the walls and sniffing at the door frames. She attacked our feet every step we took, fearless even was we walked across the room. And she loved to play from the very beginning. Maybe my ability to understand ferret emotions is lacking (and it is), but her indomitable curiosity and playfulness has earned my admiration.
Now if I can just convince her to attack feet gently... and if this afternoon would just pass so I can let her out and watch her play again.
Monday, 12 January 2009
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Coffee is like wine: you can taste and enjoy and even compare the different beans and different roasts, and you’re pretty sure that if it costs more, it’s better. But then there comes the time when you bow your head and acknowledge that when it comes down to it, you’re a poser, and you really know nothing at all of the subtle yet exotic world you’ve blindly stumbled into. But you can never go back; for better or worse, you’ll never drink a cup of Starbucks “coffee” again.
There were six of us sitting around two wooden tables, pushed together in the front corner of Café Pronto at the Festival at Riva in Annapolis: a British man who claimed Café Pronto makes the best cappuccino from New York to Washington, D.C.; a hippy college-student with blue eye-shadow, eager to share her love of coffee with anyone who came within ear shot; a shy, quiet friend of the hippy who seemed a little over-awed by it all; a Café Pronto employee, growing her own knowledge; and JJ and I, eager for our first coffee-cupping experience.
Coffee-cupping, when done properly, involves smelling whole beans; feeling and tasting and smelling the grounds; deeply inhaling the aromas of the brewed coffee itself; then, finally, sipping the coffee quickly in, to the back of the tongue, to analyze the many flavors of caramels or nuts or cedar or the floral aromas of orange blossoms.
Or so I’ve been told.
Technically speaking, this wasn’t a true coffee-cupping. We didn’t finger any grounds and most of us weren’t advanced enough to notice any aromas of anything. Instead, we were comparing brewing methods: the three, thick glasses on the mat in front of each of us represented the high-tech, expensive Clover machine – now bought out by Starbucks; a French-press; and a pour-over method. And all three represented the best, most heavenly coffee I have ever tasted and probably ever will.
Guatemalan El Socorro Y Anexos beans sell for over $30 for a 12-ounce bag, and are described as having a “candy-like fragrance with Hints of Lemon, and complex citrus and berry flavors that bloom as the cup cools.”
I couldn’t be so descriptive. But I CAN tell you that even a non-coffee drinker could have enjoyed this particular cup of coffee, so light and sweet it was almost like tea. Even as the coffee cooled, it stayed sweet, a little tart, and refreshing. I came closer than ever before to tasting those elusive aromas and fragrances. And if I never have another chance to enjoy a cup of El Socorro Y Anexos coffee, I’ll never forget it.
If you ever find yourself in Annapolis around 2 o'clock on a Friday or Saturday afternoon, drop by Cafe Pronto's store-front shop at the Festival at Riva. You never know just what you'll blindly stumble into.
Tuesday, 21 October 2008
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Ever have days when all you want is to go back to bed and pull those blankets up over your head and pretend that the whole, big, overwhelming world has just disappeared?
I think I need a vacation.
Basically, my laundry list of woes boils down to three: my husband needs a new job during the worst economy of our (fairly short) lives, our unfaithful Volvo went and tore up its own transmission just months after demanding new brakes AND while needing new shocks (seriously… the OLD Volvo with 200,000 miles on it ran better than this one with 130,000), and we’re paying way too much for rent because we live in one the – literally – richest counties in the U.S.
Awesome.
Oh, and by the way, depending where HE finds a job I might be looking for one too… and EVERY job I’m interested in wants that piece of paper called a bachelor’s degree. McDonalds, anyone?
OK, so it’s not really that bad. He needs a new job because his current one bores him severely, not because he got laid off. Our expensive apartment IS lovely AND a good deal for the location. But I’m making no excuses for the car – it deserves no goodwill from me.
But pulling those covers over my head still sounds really good, and judging by the shotgun that showed up in our apartment over the weekend, I think my husband’s hide-under-the-covers plan involves spending the rest of his life hunting deer – he spent the drive to work this morning figuring how many he could hunt per year and how much wood he could cut off 200 acres… (that 200 acres, by the way, is in Alaska. I promised to visit him in the summer).
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And on a different note: I think I’m going libertarian after this election. Oh, I’ll keep my republican registration so I can vote in the primaries – but I have no more republican loyalties.
Thank you, bloated, republican-run federal government, for disillusioning me with my party. You give “big government” a whole new meaning.
Friday, 10 October 2008
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It’s odd how the smallest little decisions can change our lives forever. We take a shortcut to work, stay in bed an extra five minutes, or say hello to the postman, and a series of events is set in motion that we never could have foreseen.
Three years ago, a simple cup of coffee after a midterm made my life infinitely better.
The memories of that day are set in my mind like photographs. I remember sitting through chapel at Patrick Henry College, while dates and names of European history ran through my mind in a sort of drugged, sleep deprived way.
I remember writing, desperately filling the pages of a blue book, until my hand ached and still there were more details to add.
And then I see myself sitting on my bed, IM window up, trying to relax and wishing for half-decent coffee – anything other than what we had in the cafeteria – when a friend suggested going out to the local, now defunct, coffee shop since my next class was canceled.
A friend. But even then I think I had inkling of what was to come. And as I sipped that mid-morning coffee from the comfort of a massive leather chair in the corner of the small room, I began to love my friend.
We have one of those chairs now, filling most of one room in our small apartment - a relic of the day our relationship was born. And every morning, when he carries my mug of coffee into the room as I'm getting ready for work, I'm so glad I agreed to go to Brew with a friend that Monday morning three years ago.
Friday, 29 August 2008
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Do you ever hide behind holiness?
Years ago, when my mother had three very young children and was starting to struggle through the morass of exhaustion that comes with the territory, she and my dad opened their home to a Christian woman in need. She lived with us – though I don’t remember her – but instead of offering her help in exchange for their charity, she would hide under the table to pray.“I have to pray,” she’d say when Mom, desperate, asked for help. And while chaos reigned around her, she sat peacefully under the table, full of her own holiness, and prayed. And she probably thought that she, like Mary in the New Testament, and chosen the better portion.
Of course her behavior is obviously unholy. While spending time with God is hugely important, so is obeying what He has to say about serving others, being a blessing to those in need, and loving your brother. The lady (who was quickly kicked out when Dad lost patience with her prayer shawls and lack of helpfulness) was so busy building up her sense of religion that she forgot what it meant to be a Christian. Or maybe, uncomfortable with changing my then-baby brother’s diaper, she hid behind her holiness to escape discomfort.
How often do we do that, I wonder?
“Mom, Dad, everything that I have is promised to God to build up the temple. You’ll have to look elsewhere for your dinner.” So spoke the Pharisees, clothing their naked selfishness under a cloak of holy self-denial. Like the lady who lived with us, the Pharisees are blatantly obvious.
But often it’s more disguised, so that we hardly know its even there. Jesus welcomed the children, but sometimes we turn them away from our doors because “we have to take care of our own children first.” And we’re right – to neglect our own families to serve those of others is wrong. But it is also wrong to selfishly ignore the children God sends to us because we can’t stand the extra noise and mess they bring, and even worse to claim holiness in the process.
Husbands are told to love their wives as Christ loved the church, but how often are families ignored while their husbands and fathers are out leading churches, growing ministries, claiming holiness while ignoring the most important – if unglamorous - job they have ever been given?
“God hasn’t given me peace about that, so I can’t help you.” But has God really not given you peace, or are you afraid of what you might be asked to do, and so hiding behind that veil of holiness? He knows the difference.
We are called on to BE holy, to serve God with our time, our decisions, our families – every aspect of our lives. To use a false sense of religion to protect our desires or hide from our fears only hinders us in our true calling to be perfect as Christ is perfect.
Sunday, 29 June 2008
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Shoreline Seafood stands between the north and southbound lanes of Route 3 in Gambrills, a long building calling attention to itself with a bright blue awning and replica lighthouse and a big sign that for months read "Pray for Pops" before changing to "In loving memory..."
We've driven past it day after day, not really paying attention besides to wonder who "Pops" was, and whether he served raw or cooked seafood. But determined to sample local seafood while living here within an hour of the Chesapeake Bay, we stopped this afternoon to place an order for the Shellfish Lover platter - a sampling of oysters, clams, mussels, seasoned shrimp and two lobsters.
I wandered down the aisle while we waited... fish of more varieties than I'd heard of were displayed behind the glass windows. Shellfish rested on ice on the counter, and a soft-shelled crab slowly waved its claw and bubbled on top of another. The front of the store smelled of all kinds of seafood, broiled and steamed and roasted and fried, and displayed sides and homemade pies and a laminated piece of paper offering tartar sauce for 50 cents extra. The back smelled more strongly of fish. Shelves along the wall stored shrimp batter mixes and Old Bay seasonings, t-shirts and hats and quarter-candy machines. A girl around my age took our order, one much younger rang up the total and a white-haired lady fought with the pen and squinted at the menu as she took the order of the woman behind us. I wondered if she was the one remembering Pops.
Back home, we opened the foil pan that had smelled so good all the way home, and realized our one major lack of forethought... two red, full-size and fully-shelled lobsters lay in the pan, steam rising up to meet us as we stared back and tried to figure out how in the world one eats a lobster that has all its legs, claws and shell neatly attached. Enter google, and following step-by-step instructions JJ attacked the first with a pareing knife and his old hammer while I watched, avoided the bit of lobster spattering into my face, and ate shrimp.
While more work than we bargained for - and though staring into dinner's eyes and being spattered by its guts and egg mass while trying to eat it is somewhat unappetizing - by the time we'd started into the second lobster we agreed it was totally worth it. The shrimp was the best I'd ever had, steamed and heavily seasoned. And the mussels and clams (the oysters were out of season so we got extra clams instead), while chewy, weren't bad and were definitely worth the experience.
It's not an experience we're likely to relive anytime soon. While $50 for the amount of seafood we got was an excellent value, it's not one our budget can really afford. But as I dump mussel shells into the trash and mop up bits of lobster, it's also not an experience I'm likely to forget anytime soon.
Friday, 13 June 2008
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And the speculation begins...
Is he the curly-headed man who stood talking to our landlord for 15 minutes at the base of the stairs, while we peeked between the slats of the blinds? Or maybe it's the couple who wandered up the stairs, wondering which apartment was for rent. Or maybe someone we didn't see at all, who came by during the day while we were working.
Our old neighbor moved out a month and a half ago, and we've been wondering - somewhat anxiously - who would take his place. He was the perfect neighbor: almost never home, and when he was, just at night. We had the whole common deck to our selves, and since summer started I took advantage of that. Tanning has made itself an important part of my weekend routine.
But we learned this week that come July SOMEONE is moving in. It's a small apartment for a couple, so right now we're betting on the curly haired man (who JJ says looks annoying... not sure how you can tell that from between the slats of a blind...). I guess when you share a thin wall and a deck with someone, it really matters who they are. I wonder if he's thinking the same about us?
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And in the name of saving gas, we've bought ourselves a scooter. JJ rides it to work when it doesn't have a flat tire, and to the park when he wants to play basketball, and I ride it just for fun. I never knew 35 mph could seem so fast...
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This coffee falls into your stomach, and straightway there is a general commotion. Ideas begin to move like the battalions of the Grand Army of the battlefield, and the battle takes place. Things remembered arrive at full gallop, ensuing to the wind. The light cavalry of comparisons deliver a magnificent deploying charge, the artillery of logic hurry up with their train and ammunition, the shafts of with start up like sharpshooters. Similes arise, the paper is covered with ink; for the struggle commences and is concluded with torrents of black water, just as a battle with powder. ~Honore de Balzac, "The Pleasures and Pains of Coffee"

